Asteya: Nonstealing

Stuff does not get any easier. This is a challenging one for sure, and I think that we are stealing much more often than we might think we are, and no, I´m not accusing you of stealing things from friends´ houses, or shoplifting. For instance I am referring to all those times we steal the “spotlight” from our friends, or the people we randomly are having conversations with. When we “take over”, and the conversation all of a sudden is about us, instead of the person who was talking. Or perhaps we steal from others by simply not paying attention to them, when we might feel that looking down into our phone is more important than the person in front of us.

In all the instances where we steal, we have made the situation about us, not about the other. Whatever words have or haven´t come out of our mouth, the intent has been to serve ourselves, not the other.

I personally love the invitation to “be a forklift”, to work on always be lifting people up. To more often ask ourselves does the other person feel uplifted and lighter because they have been spending time with us? Have we brightened their day, by taking a moment from focusing on ourselves, to instead focus on them?

“Consider becoming the type of energy that no matter where you go, or where you are, you always add value to the spaces and lives of those around you.”

However, we seldom limit us to steal only from others. Most of us also steal from the earth, and from the future, from our children and their children. We seem to be insatiable, always wanting more and more. It´s like we are on a speeding train with no brakes, and no way to get off. We have excess almost everywhere, in our bodies, in our agendas, in our closets, our homes. We seem to have lost our sense of gratitude.

“It´s like we´re living as if there is no tomorrow and no one to live here after we are gone.”

And as if this wasn´t enough, we steal from ourselves. We keep on chasing ideals of how to be, how to look, what to do, in order to be happy, in order to feel successful. We want more and more, just like little children who begin to want what the other one has. We forget that we are all individuals, and instead we focus on becoming just like the people around us. This is how we steal from ourselves, and our chance of becoming, and being the original that we were born as.

This guideline asks us to focus on our own desires, and then build our competency with life itself. It can be seen as a grand adventure, to turn our attention away from stealing, and instead towards the life long task of shaping ourselves into someone of value.