To build the foundation of Ahimsa means pretty much to work on finding our courage, and using that courage to face our fears of the unknown of, and in, life.
As we know, courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to be afraid without being paralyzed. Courage is found by facing our fears – the small ones, the fat ones, the embarrassing ones, and the really big, scary ones. Cause, if we keep ourselves safe, how will our courage grow?
As our courage grows we can use that courage to create balance in our lives. To live a balanced life means to sometimes lose balance, and to realize that balance is not something we one day all of a sudden find, but that it is something we create. We create it by identifying was is essential to us, and that we, with the use of courage then build as much as possible of our life around those things essential to us, working on eliminating things not so essential to us.
Balance comes from listening to the guidance and wisdom of the inner voice. To be in tune with ourselves, we must get quiet and listen and then heed this inner voice.
In order to live a nonviolent life we need to develop compassion for ourselves, that deep, deep compassion and love of self. A love that is forgiving, one that sees the humor in our imperfections and flaws, one that loves us regardless and unconditionally. If we cannot find this love, this compassion for our selves, it becomes too easy to begin to look outward and begin to focus too much on others.
We begin to think that we know what is better for others, we begin to “help” others giving advice (which has not been asked for) on how they should live their life. We try to “fix” or “save” people that most likely need, simply to handle their own situation, to learn and grow from those, rather than having us telling them what to do, or what not to do. And even if we don´t verbalize these things, we might instead start to worry. Worry about others, worry about what can go wrong, worry about this and that.
Worry comes from a place of arrogance that I know better what should be happening in your life. Worry says I don´t trust your journey, or your answers, or your timing. Worry, is a misuse of our imagination.
I encourage you to take a little bit of time, maybe make yourself a nice cup of coffee or tea, find some stillness, and do some reflections about Ahimsa on your own. How often do you give unasked-for-advice? How often do you face your fears? How can you start to change does not-so-nice thoughts?